I love my freedom!

I have said, many times that one has to be selfish when it comes to happiness.
You can't be happy for others, that is not completely true. In my sole opinion.
What I think is that you are happy by the happiness of yourself... sometimes, at the cost of somebody else.
(It is like being the first place on a race, you are happy by making unhappy the second place; as simple as that)
Seeing somebody happy can make you feel happy at the same time as they are happy of seeing you.

It might be hard to understand but I think it is very simple.
Last week I spent the weekend with my parents, and late during the last night I engaged a deep conversation with my father about my selfishness and happiness.

I was explaining that all that trip was planned by me to make ME happy.
He was saying that he was there because he wanted to see me happy; that he made the trip because of me.
So I explained that he was happy because he chose to be happy. He decided to go because he wanted to be happy. He decided to travel all those miles because he wanted to be happy. By consequence he saw me happy. It is a very logical consequence that if he is there I would be happy.

In addition, I explained that the whole trip was for my mere selfishness. I wanted to complete my annual goal. I wanted to have my parents with me while I completed that goal. I wanted to have my little brother with me after completing my race. All of the above contributed to my happiness: MY SOLE HAPPINESS.
By consequence they were happy too.

If you separated of the factors or if you take parts of the equation apart.
I would have been happy just because of the completion of my goal.
But because my parents were there I was happier.
Even happier because my brother was also there.
I could have been even happier is my older brother and my boyfriend have been also there.

The point is that if you simplify the perspective in terms of what makes you happy, it is not wrong to be selfish about it.
You have you save your soul in order to save others.
And being happy is a simple form of salvation.

Can't make somebody happy if I am not happy. That is like swimming upstream. Just doesn't make sense, though there are some people that do that.
I, myself, personally, think that I am happy because I choose to be happy. And I can be happier because I know myself too well that I look more factors to contribute to my sole happiness.

In this train of thoughts.. here is this poem.

Este es un poema de Odin Dupeyron...

(And this would be the translation in English for those who might read this)

"As soon as I start a relationship, 

almost immediately, I realize that

I love my freedom!

I am so free, so enormously free, that

I can -delightfully- tight myself to your

waist with no fear that such

will steal my independence. 

I am so sure of having me in my hands, 

that I can relay in yours with no doubt...

not for a moment.

I know myself too well that I can -for the time that

my heart desires- lose myself in you, without

ever losing myself at all.

I am so, so, so own of myself, that I don't

have any problem with being 

called "YOURS".

I'm yours, no doubts about it, I'm yours without fears, I'm

yours without doubts, I'm yours because I learned to be 

so mine that I can fly with you. I decide

having me in your arms.

I love my freedom!"""