My comments at the very end of this post.
First of all, this post is very connected with the last one:
I LOVE MY FREEDOM
So, I think that there extremes are always bad.
There is no good on drinking too much, as there is no good of not drinking at all.
- Not too much because you will hurt your liver and your social status.
- Not at all, since there are a lot of social events that require that you drink. Social parameters are not my thing, I mean, I did not invent them I just follow them when I have to. And one of them is that you should be social drinker to be able to be accepted in certain social spheres.
And I could go on and on with examples of how extremes are not good.
But the point here is that having an absolute question or absolute answer (also can be called as final question or final answer) is not always something good.
Things can change, things can be corrected.
Questions are always good, and they must be asked in order to be able to get into any mind, soul or event.
Answers are always good since they define what we are and what we like and everything else.
There is quote from the Allegiant book (from the Divergent series) from Veronica Roth --- from the Erudite faction manifesto:
"Every question that can be answered
must be
answered or at least engaged.
Illogical thought processes must be
challenged when they arise.
Wrong answers must be corrected.
Correct answers must be affirmed."
I don't know if it is because of my military background or because I am in pursuit of being somebody better every day. But as I like questions I like answers.
I was trained to always have an answer. I was trained to always answer to urgent situations in a fast way.
But even before this training I was taught to always question everything. I ask every single question if there is something that I don't understand. And I don't care if people think that I am a retard or something I ask because questioning about things will lead me to be more intelligent (if it is was in school) or to be more okay with somebody's behaviour (if it was a relationship)
There has never being an absolute question or an absolute answer. And to proof this you can take a look in my life:
I spent 13 years of my life in the Navy, and I never thought that could be all, so I did question myself about what I wanted to do in life (and the circumstances that I was living at the time made me consider the questions I need to ask)
Once again I started my new life here in San Francisco and after a couple of months I didn't like the answer I gave to myself when I left the Navy so I had to question myself again of what I wanted.
And so on, everytime and every now and then I question myself about what I am doing and if it is taking me to the place I want to be.
So it is a mix of temporary questions that find temporary answers.
There is a saying that I like very much:
"You can have it all, but not at the same time"
-My father
This post is to the person that shared this strip with me.
If I was stick to my old-relationship-post answers I would have never let him ignore me or let me do something that I didn't want me to.
But every time he engages a conversation with me I see that there is much I need to learn. I have mentioned to him (several times) that he is very smart.
There are a lot of different ways to be smart, and he is smart in a way that I could not describe.
So, back to the topic again, every time he questions me about my solid answers with indirect questions I decide that I can change my answers to allow myself to feel some love and affection since at the end that is what I want for me: I want my future me to be happy.
So in order for that I, now, have to be happy with what I do and what I decide.
The old me would never have allowed to be put apart with no answers at the moment of crucial decisions. But I have learn that not everybody is like me. Not everybody have an immediate answer for everything.
Some people have to think for a while, consult other people, take some time to meditate.
So, the time that took me to answer this little one that sent me this is the time that took me to write this post.
In conclusion, I would say I am not a collectionist of answers neither a collections of questions.
It is the current and present time that makes me question what I want to know or makes me answer what I think... but always (and this is very absolute and final) always towards my happiness.
(or maybe until the moment I realize I am wrong)
Feel free to drop any line if you happen to get anything from the strip or a comment to my thoughts.
